Hi, I'm Jenny

It's time for you to get clarity

in your heart-centred life path

"You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step."

— Martin Luther King, Jr.

I see you, feeling trapped in a career that no longer aligns with who you are.

I see you work so hard for so many years, but it's like you're invisible; constantly overlooked for opportunities that should have been yours.

It feels like you're screaming for recognition, but no one is listening.

Every day you wake up with this gnawing feeling of underachievement, like you're destined for so much more, but you're stuck spinning your wheels in the same frustrating cycle.

You want to create something meaningful, something that truly reflects who you are, but you don’t even know where to start.

You’ve been gaslit in your relationships and at work for so long that sometimes you can’t tell if your feelings are valid.

Asking yourself - Am I really good enough? Or, is everyone right in doubting me?

It’s hard to believe in yourself when you’ve spent so long being manipulated into doubting your own worth.

I’m Jenny

I took over UCS in 2023, and combined it with my coaching practice working with women considering coaching as a heart-centred profession, but feeling lost about their direction, and helping them to find clarity in the pathway to their life purpose.

I have a degree in psychology and am a certified practitioner in Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or tapping) and Matrix Reimprinting (which combines tapping with visualization). I have a certificate in trauma counseling and began working with clients in 2002.

Credentials aside, I am a lifelong learner who is always seeking new ways to do things even better.

I see life as an opportunity to be the best version of yourself that you can be; it’s about making the most of each amazing day and moving forward on your own terms every day.

I also believe that you and I can manifest practically anything if we stick with it long enough.

"When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, you’ll be successful."

— Eric Thomas

I thought starting a coaching business would be easy

given my years of experience as a trauma counsellor.

I couldn't have been more wrong...

You see, I'd brought all of the mindset issues along with me, that I'd had in my professional career.

Feeling terrified of being seen as a fraud.
On the one hand, knowing I had valuable skills and experience, but at the same time, being overwhelmed by doubt that others would not value my ideas.
Fear of dominant personalities harshly criticisng my high quality work so that they can control me.

I was experiencing what is called Imposter Syndrome...

Now, as an employee, the Imposter Syndrome was a lesser version. There were a limited number of people that were authority figures.

And as an employee I tended to accept a manager had the right to be judgemental about my work. And some of my managers were actually good leaders rather than controllers.

However, when I started my journey as an entrepreneur, my Imposter Syndrome blew up and was totally out of control.

As an entrepreneur, you have the illusion of being free from being managed. But, if you're wanting to make money, you quickly realise that you actually have the whole world as your manager.

You start thinking, what if I put myself out there, and everyone realizes I’m not as capable as I think?

The fear of judgment then weighs on you so heavily that you can barely move forward.

You think, it’s easier to stay where you are, even though you're miserable.

Then procrastination takes over, as the fear of failure and judgment paralyzes you.

Had I felt lost? Absolutely.

And I have to confess I did procrastinate over getting my business going for a number of years. And during that time, I definitely felt lost...

I had no idea what direction to take in my life anymore.

My career no longer fulfilled me, my dreams seemed distant and impossible, and I was constantly battling with my self-worth.

I know I had more to offer, but I didn’t know how to get there, or even which was the right path to be on.

Every time I tried to step forward, it felt like there was a wall in front of me, made up of my fears, my doubts, and the memories of being manipulated and undervalued.

It was hard to trust myself, to believe that I could actually make something happen without being judged or failing miserably.

My heart wanted to start a business that allowed me to be authentic, to make an impact, and to connect with others in a meaningful way.

But my mind constantly reminded me of all the ways I could fail, all the reasons I was not good enough, and all the things that could go wrong.

I was stuck in this internal battle, unable to take the leap

I wanted to be seen and valued for who I really was.

Not for the tasks I completed or the roles I filled but for my heart, my ideas, and my potential.

I craved the freedom to live and work in a way that was true to me, without the constant fear of judgment.

I wanted to break free from the crippling fear of failure.

I wanted to wake up with excitement and confidence, knowing I was building something that reflected my values and would give me the freedom and fulfillment I had been searching for.

I wanted to feel proud of myself, to look at the life I was creating and know that it was aligned with my true passions and purpose.

I wanted to stop second-guessing my abilities and step into the world as the powerful, capable woman I knew I was deep down.

Finally, I found the secret - I needed to value myself

I participated in a coaching program that included working on valuing myself.

As I began to value myself more, I found myself one day taking myself away from a situation where I was being gaslit. It was a bit of a surprise really.

And as my confidence grew, I stayed in a situation where I was being gaslit by the same person and I stood up for myself, not terribly effectively, but it was a new experience.

Then finally, after the gaslighting had occurred a few times more; I thanked the person for the good parts of the connection we had, but said I could no longer tolerate the bad parts and I ceased contact with them.

Along the way, I realised that in order to be a victim of gaslighting, my inner voice had to be agreeing with the gaslighter. What's more I then realised that my inner voice was busy gaslighting me whenever I tried to work on my business.

After working on retraining my inner voice to support me, I worked on my fear of making mistakes.

For most of my life, I thought I wasn't good enough to be a perfectionist... Then a few years back it suddenly dawned on me that my frantic attempts to find every mistake in anything I was doing, WAS a form of perfectionism.

After overcoming my fear of being judged harshly, and allowing myself to acknowledge having expertise rather than trying to be an expert, I worked out that listening to those that have experience in entrepreneurship was more beneficial than those who'd only ever been an employee.

From there, I started taking action. Posting on Social Media, creating Podcast Episodes and putting Me out to the world.